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Friendship Photo Contest | Nashville Photographer

Friendship is what has carried me through some of the darkest moments of my life as well as some of the brightest.  I truly do not know where I would be today without a few constant, hard-loving friends that have stood by my side.  Yesterday I was reminded, once again, of this as one of my best friends came over to literally help me clean up my mess.  Sometimes my mess is figurative but yesterday it was literal.  In therapy this week, my therapist encouraged me to reach out to an organized friend who could come help me get my house a bit more organized.  For those who know me well, you know I am messy.  It's one of those things I wish no one could see.  The thing that Shame constantly whispers in my ear: "if only others could see this about you, they wouldn't love you."  That Shame is deep and heavy.  It weighs me down on a daily basis whispering that I am not good enough.  That I am just a mess.   Yet somehow those that know me in this intimate way (you know who you are), still LOVE me.  They walk in my messy house or ride in my messy car, and see ME.  

So this brings me to the idea of this contest.  I asked one of my best friends (who happens to love organizing and cleaning) if she would help me get organized.  She was over within a day sweeping, hanging hooks on my walls, and bringing peace to my chaos.  But the real miracle was that she saw the depth of my messiness and still had breakfast with me this morning.   She didn't leave.  She loved me through it.  That's what true friends are for: to love you even in the midst of your shameful, dark places.  But, not only to love you through them, but also to come in and help you get out of them.  We don't have to stay there.  And we can ask for help.  After this moment of experiencing friendship in this beautiful, vulnerable way, I knew that I wanted to give back.  So I had the idea of this contest.  And, let's be honest, it also helps me gain more followers and possibly more business.  But the true heart behind it is that I want to celebrate friendship.  

SO IF YOU NEED TO SKIP ALL THE ABOVE, HERE IS THE CONTEST RULES.  (haha)

1) Follow me.  

2) Post a photo of a friend that has shown up for you in a hard place or time in your life.  One that has shown love to you when you didn't feel like you deserved it.  You don't have to tell the full story but if you feel comfortable, I would love to hear it!  And social media would be a better place if you showed that kind of vulnerability.  Make sure to tag them too, obviously. 

3). Use hashtag: #tronephotographyfriends  this helps me find all of the entries

4) You may also cross post to Facebook (or instagram) for an extra entry.

You and your friend will receive a free mini session, valued at $250.  

The contest ends Friday, September 14 at midnight.    The winner will be chosen by a random drawing.  This contest is not affiliated with Instagram.  

I can't wait to see your posts!  

Here's to friendship!

 

The Helper | Enneagram Photo Project

I have now completed the two on the Enneagram, also known as the Helper.  There was no better person to photograph and interview for this number than my friend, Ariel.  Below is a snippet of our conversation and a few photos that represent the wonder and beauty of a two.  For more information on the Enneagram or to find out your own number, go to The Enneagram Institute.  

 

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What is hard about being a 2?
Getting your expectations in check about what others can bring into your life. I find that I overextend & take care of people that can’t give me anything back. I have found that I seem to attract takers so I’m learning to try to surround myself with other givers but finding it lonely in this journey. ⠀⠀⠀⠀

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What do you like about being a 2?
I like being empathetic & caring that much about people. I know that being a 2 allows me to feel love deeper than most & I’m grateful for that.

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What is something that you can share with fellow Enneagram 2s that they could possibly identify with? Or to help them feel less alone in their “twoness”?
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“I have found that dating has been very hard. Twos are natural fixers & you can’t fix another person. My life has been heartache after heartache of trying to fix someone who doesn’t need me to fix them. I am trying to learn how to hone in on my nurturing abilities instead of my natural inclination to be someone’s caretaker. Twos will give to their detriment, both in friendship & in love relationships. In the past, I have allowed relationships to run me dry. And I don’t want to do that anymore.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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What is a practical way for you to get out of the hard places of being a two?  

I journal, meditate, do yoga.  I talk about it right when it happens.  I try not to go to bed angry with anyone.  But I do tend to move towards food for comfort and feeling loved.   I just stopped binging on food a little over a year ago.  This is the most vulnerable time of my life.  The dark side of the two doesn't exist for me much anymore.  If I was my "old two", I would be really self hurting through food but I don't do that much anymore.  But I struggle everyday to fill that void with food but I now ask myself, "what would Zeita do?"  We all need those friends who will hold us accountable and allow us those safe places to land.    

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